Lets all just be people.

http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/feminism-objectification/

Objectification is a notion central to feminist theory. It can be roughly defined as the seeing and/or treating a person, usually a woman, as an object. In this entry, the focus is primarily on sexual objectification, objectification occurring in the sexual realm. Martha Nussbaum (1995, 257) has identified seven features that are involved in the idea of treating a person as an object: 

1. instrumentality: the treatment of a person as a tool for the objectifier's purposes; 

2. denial of autonomy: the treatment of a person as lacking in autonomy and self-determination;

3. inertness: the treatment of a person as lacking in agency, and perhaps also in activity; 

4. fungibility: the treatment of a person as interchangeable with other objects; 

5. violability: the treatment of a person as lacking in boundary-integrity; 

6. ownership: the treatment of a person as something that is owned by another (can be bought or sold); 

7. denial of subjectivity: the treatment of a person as something whose experiences and feelings (if any) need not be taken into account.

Rae Langton (2009, 228–229) has added three more features to Nussbaum's list: 

8. reduction to body: the treatment of a person as identified with their body, or body parts; 

9. reduction to appearance: the treatment of a person primarily in terms of how they look, or how they appear to the senses; 

10. silencing: the treatment of a person as if they are silent, lacking the capacity to speak.

http://www.rolereboot.org/culture-and-politics/details/2012-12-a-letter-to-the-guy-who-harrassed-me-outside-the-bar

"You don’t get it because in your world, this is just you being clever and hilarious, just a little light-hearted late-night banter! Where's my sense of humor? Dude, you are the third, or fifth, or ninth man this week to be rude to me, to think that what you want—to get a rise from your friends, to make your desire known, to make me uncomfortable, to project some twisted "proof" of your virility into the air—is more important than my comfort or safety. This is not an anomaly. This is constant."

I remember how I've been treated for yelling at someone for slapping my butt, or referring to me in a crude sexual manner. It was always as though I was out of place for doing so, out of place for sticking up for myself. 
I received responses, subtle or direct that resembled: "aren't you just cute when you're spit-fire angry" like a toddler in a tantrum with the adults smiling at their 'precious little attempt.' 
Or, "Whoa, you're touchy... so easily offended - its not like I meant it like that. What's your deal? Obviously you have some unresolved issues..." 
Or, "not everyone is out to get you, paranoid much?"

Its become easier to recognize it when crude - but its pervaded so much more than that. 
It's covertly taught women that they aren't capable of protecting themselves, that their personal boundaries are feeble and unwarranted.
- "Does me doing that make you uncomfortable?"
- Um, YES. "No, of course not." My discomfort is probably irrational - I mean, he's obviously okay with it... I don't want him to think I am (insert any quote stated in the paragraph above).
We stifle how we feel about things because culturally we've been taught that it isn't rational, lucrative or acceptable. 

So either we women treat ourselves with dignity, and we're returned with a philosophy that says "how silly." Or we women treat ourselves as invalids and by it we prove to ourselves that the "how silly" philosophy is true.

Think of the cultural image that manifests when a woman stands up for "women" or "feminism" or comment on unequal gender treatment while in a group. "Unnecessarily feisty" or "irrationally cynical" or "man-hater". 
And that image appears for both the men and the women observing her.
Those women are too independent and outspoken for their own good, they're unsuitable for romantic relationships, they're harsh and controlling and they have got some serious problems...
But what if its not those women with the problem, but rather ALL of us with a problem.
We all live out sexual objectification.
I'm not vilifying men, I'm not "over-compensating" for weakness in women - I'm stating that sexual objectification effects even more of our lives than we sometimes realize, and I am OVER IT. Over believing it myself. Over perpetuating it myself. Over having to fight against it, when I actually realize to.

Its not all about sex.
Women are not objects, and men are just as deceived when they believe their power comes from advancing that social perspective.

People, let's change this.

Men, when women say "no" (and I mean in everything, not just in the context of rape) then respect her to be HUMAN and her response as valuable and firm, not unnecessary or a boundary to be pushed - EVEN IF she has not yet learned to be confident against social precepts by holding her boundaries firm by herself. Not because its your job to protect her, but because she's human too & should be respected..
And women, stick up for yourselves. Know your feelings, concerns or convictions are not crazy, that they are not petty - and learn to fight believing and acting as though they are. Also,  do not allow yourself to believe and do not tell other women that they are paranoid for standing up for their own.